Sunday, December 3, 2023

Christmas Musing #10 Dependance

 7 And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths and laid him in a manger, because there was no place for them in the inn. Luke 2:7 English Standard Version

               The spouses and children of military service members all receive and carry DoD ID cards. These cards authorize them certain privileges, shopping at the PX or Commissary, access to Moral Welfare and Recreation facilities, medical care, and entrance to military installations. As the spouse of a retiree, Christy enjoys continued access to all the above even should I pre-decease her. The military recognizes the role and sacrifice that life in the military entails and authorizes her those privileges, apart from me. She will always be “my dependent.” The term carries a certain cachet, and sometimes a pejorative whiff.

               Sometimes, especially with older teenagers, the term dependent implies a bit of insult, as if you were lower class. Its use continually reminds you that your rights and privileges depend upon someone else's benevolence. Should a dependent misbehave egregiously, the military will curtail their access to military facilities. If the service member is stationed overseas, they can be returned to the states. As a lieutenant, I had to sit down and regularly counsel the son of one of my NCOs who could not bring himself to behave appropriately. As a single mother, she asked me to help by providing a positive male role model for her son who was struggling. When I informed him that should his attitude and actions continue to deteriorate, I would send him home he changed both, though he deeply resented being a “dependent.” At our hearts we are a surely independent lot, and that often causes us no end of grief. Being dependent upon someone else wounds our pride and insults our sense of independence. Being dependent makes us beholden to a higher authority. We instinctively understand the limitations being dependent places upon us. If we are so charry of, or insulted by, dependence, imagine what it felt like for Jesus.

               The being that spoke the universe into existence was now totally dependent on one of His creatures! And not only was she a created being, she was probably a teenager. Jesus allowed Himself to be utterly dependent upon the tender ministrations of a fallible young person. His earthly father wasn’t even rich, just an average blue-collar type from a very small burg in an occupied Roman territory. Talk about a step down.

               I enjoy life as an adult. As I mentioned recently, I would not really want to return to being a child. Oh, the lack of responsibility might seem nice for a while; but, having to comply with so many other people’s demands would wear thin rather quickly. One of the things that I like about retirement is the freedom I enjoy. Each morning at the end of breakfast, I ask Christy, “What do we want to do today?” For the first time in my adult life, I control my schedule. I do what I want when I want. I eat what I want. I wear what I want, and within reason, I do what I want. Of course, Christy gets a vote; however, she usually says, “Whatever you want to do.”

               Jesus enjoyed much more freedom. Yet, He gave it all up. From King of the universe to drooly, poopy, clumsy infant all in one moment. He set it aside to fully understand me. He knows what it’s like to chafe at the restrictions we place on each other. The hands that flung the stars into space could not grasp the lightest object. The feet that strode across the newly formed earth could no longer walk. He had to be carried. And the mind that conceived physics and molecular biology, could no longer form words. All of this and more disappeared at once. He did this to be near us, to understand us, to know us intimately, and ultimately to save us. Almighty God, now a dependent.

                

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